Patience Pt. 2

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By: Mary Martin

Have you ever received guidance from God and didn’t want to do it?  Did you argue and go back and forth?  Did you finally let go and finally say, I’ll do it!  How do you feel when you do what He wants you to do and fail at it?  Angry!  Really!  Did you still trust Him?  Were you sad and disappointed?

Sometimes, it’s the lesson that God want you to learn more than doing the task.  How about a lesson in being patient, healing, trusting, believing, strengthening your faith?  Whatever it is, there’s a lesson to be learned whether we pass or fail.

There have been many times when God has wanted me to do something or pay attention to something and I didn’t and as a result, I ended up feeling angry, disappointed, wondering why me (at some point in time, we’ve all said-why me?) but we learn lessons along our journey in life and one of those lessons is patience.  God has his way of wanting us to establish a relationship with Him.

When God opens the door to the chance to grow we have to decide to break our old habits.  How are we to become new if we are not willing to shed our old skin?  As we go on our spiritual journey, we develop trust along the way.  Trust that God will guide us to our destination in life, that He will supply our needs first, but we have to shed our old skin so we can move forward.

As we grow, we change.  Just like babies grow in different stages, so do we when we are on our spiritual journey.  It has been said that people who are recovering from some type of addiction usually discover quickly that they no longer fit into their old skin which includes their old friends.  Their relationships will stand a chance of survival if others are going through the transformation as well or they’ll come to an end.  Either way, you get to choose to shed your old skin and receive new skin.  It’s a part of healing and it is at this time, patience become your best friend.

When it comes to our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level, our trust in God will be put to the test, during the transformation.  This is the time to trust Gods guidance and believe His plan for your life is the best for you.  Patience is one of the keys to learning what God has for you.

Until next time…Walk in Wisdom

Mary Martin

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Patience Pt. 1

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Patience Pt. 1

By Mary Martin

 

There are many reasons why we become impatient with things or people.  Most of us have at least one thing in common and that is sitting in traffic, whether it’s rush hour or an unforeseen accident.  In this day in time, we as people want the microwave fix instead of waiting when it’s necessary.  As we go through this impatient life, we will and have missed out or passed up many blessings along the way.

Oxford dictionary defines patience as “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”

What does impatience do?  Perhaps it encourages us to look at what is in front of us.  To look at the whole situation.  When we want things now means that it is a lot of noise going on around us and we are not looking at the whole situation or bigger picture.

Impatience buys on credit instead of laying it out or asking yourself if it’s something you really NEED or is it something you WANT?  Impatience buys the next high tech phone  and within months it will be obsolete.  It can also, hinder relationships.  Most of all, impatience can leave you stressed, overwhelmed and frustrated.

When we are patient, we ask ourselves questions that will determine if something is a need or want.  We can slow down and prepare for rush hour or that unforeseen accident.  We can wait until certain fruits are ripe (strawberries, melons, etc.) because they will be juicier.

Sometimes, we get impatient about our lives and that comes from the choices we’ve made.  When we trust that there is a better plan for our lives, then we are patient knowing that things will work out for our good.  Romans 8:28 says: And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

It’s obvious that impatience implies that something is wrong and it needs to be fixed now, so there won’t be any problems in the future but, sometimes things happen for a reason to cause us to become impatient and that’s when we need to rely on God’s guidance and trust that He will get us through, even if it’s somethings as simple as sitting in traffic.

So, the next time impatience sets in try these tips:

  • Stop and take a breath. Slow down.  This will help you to refocus.  Give yourself permission to relax.
  • Release what’s causing you to be impatient to God and listen for guidance.
  • Pinpoint triggers that may cause you to be impatient and how you can deal with them. Make a list and decide if it’s worth your time to be impatient.
  • Keep a journal. It will help you to become more aware and help you come to a better conclusion as to how to better deal with what’s causing your impatience.
  • Look at the big picture and remind yourself that some things are going to take time and that’s it’s ok.
  • Remember what really matters. This will help take the focus off of what’s causing your impatience.
  • When all else fails. Just let it go.  When you realize that there’s absolutely nothing you can do, release it.  Your outlook will be much better.

Until next time:  Walk in Wisdom

 

Mary Martin

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Accessing the Power of Gratitude

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Accessing the Power of Gratitude

by Mary Martin 

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

So what is gratitude: Simply being grateful or thankful for or about something or someone.

There are many things to be grateful for: the different seasons (what’s your favorite season?), a healthy functioning body, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, healthy food, clothes, job family, the ability to read, being able to smell the roses, your friendly four-legged companion.

What’s on your list? 

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

 

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

Read scriptures on gratitude.  See some below.

Colossians 2:7

having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith, just as you were instructed, and overflowing with gratitude.

Colossians 3:17

Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.

Psalm 106:1

Praise the LORD! Oh give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His loving kindness is everlasting.

1 Thessalonians 5:18

in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

So, as you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

Mary Martin

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Changing One Thing

change one thingSometimes it seems like nothing works out the way we want it to. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle, you don’t even feel comfortable in your body, and you’re existing from day to day.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s quite simple, really…just change ONE thing.

Read something you would never typically consider reading. Try a new type of restaurant or shop at a different mall. Take a different route to work.  Any simple change of scenery can shift your perspective and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

Our lives can be like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Irritation can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration or Unappreciation can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song, poem or even meditation.

You don’t have to tackle the whole problem, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.  Do you really want to do that?

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

Mary Martin

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Finding Guidance

Have you ever felt like someone had turned the lights off to your life and left you behind?

When you feel lost, you may feel like all lights are out.  But you remember when you needed guidance, the presence of God was always there.

When you think about a decision you need to make, how does it make you feel?  Does it make you feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, confused, draining or you’re just not sure?  How do you weigh your options?  Psalm 119:105 says Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path (NIV).

Can we find peace in the decision we’ve made?  How can we know that it’s right?  There is a way to know if we are making the right decision because we are always in the presence of God asking Him for His guidance, we will be able to make good choices.

No matter what, you are God’s child and it’s important for you to know that you have the mind of God because He has given you the intelligence and the wisdom you need to make good decisions.  Your heart and mind is open to receive the information given to you by God, therefore, giving you the courage to make the right choices.

God has a plan for your life because His word says in Jerimiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (NIV).

When you’re making decisions, you want to be in alignment with God’s plan for you.  So, you may ask, how do I do that?  Simply, ask God for His guidance.

Psalms 25: 1, 4-5 says: In you, Lord my God, I put my trust.  Show me your ways, LORD, teach me your paths.   Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.

So, when you have identified the what (is the decision I need to make)?  Make sure it’s clear, then identify your options.  Get in the presence of God and find peace.  Take in a deep breath and ask Him to guide you along the way.  Ask Him what is His decision for you.  What is it that He wants you to do?  Be still for a moment and wait.  You may get an answer right then or you may have to wait on it.

Remember, the best decision is the one that is guided by God.

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Taking It One Day at A Time

At some point in time, you have heard the phrase “one day at a time.”  You have seen it in numerous places and there is an old song with the title “one day at a time.”

Because so many of us have experienced some type of emotional pain, when expressed, these words bring a new freedom of hope.

The enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy our peace, joy, and happiness and concentrates on reminding us of our past pain and anything we may fear in the future.   So, it is a good ideal to focus on the day God has given us to live in rather than worry about the next day or any days ahead.  Jesus says in Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

All of us have suffered at some point and time in our life and the memories and emotions of our past can dictate what goes on in our lives today.  Anything can trigger a thought such as hearing someone say something, hearing a story, seeing something in person or on tv or maybe how someone’s behavior will spark a thought of the past and perhaps have you worried about how the future may be.

When we make a decision to live our lives one day at a time, it won’t close the door to our past but helps to become aware of how things were so we can have a better outlook on our future.  Nobody knows it better than those who have gone through a 12-step program how taking life one day at a time can be beneficial for their life.  Or someone who is or has gone through chemo.  If they can take it one day at a time so can we.

Everything that we have gone through has purpose and while it may seem that we go through difficult times alone, we can be assured that God is with us.  He will always guide us forward.  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jerimiah 29:11

By taking one day at a time, we are taking the time to prepare for a better future.  And, when we begin to rely on God’s guidance and peace rather than rely on our own ways and understanding, our past pain and fear of what our future will be like will vanish. Our peace, joy, and happiness will be restored.

Practicing living one day at a time is not difficult.  The process really works because God gives us the strength, wisdom, and knowledge to handle daily activities or any difficulties that may arise.  When old memories of the past and fears of your future show up, give yourself permission to live a new life one that is full of hope.

When you retire for the evening, thank God for walking with you throughout your day, and when you wake up in the morning, thank God for a brand-new day and ask Him to walk with you throughout the new day giving you wisdom, knowledge, and strength to get through another day.  Choose to take it one day at a time.

At The Blink of an Eye: God’s grace – The unmerited favor and mercy of God

It was a typical day March 15, 2013. The weather was nice and not too cold. Ed and I had been looking forward to going to the Dallas auto show. A quite bit was going on that day such as a Mary Kay event, a gaming show and other events that would take place that day.

We purchased our tickets to get in the auto show and everything moved along smoothly. All the oohing and ahhing from seeing the new vehicles such as the Cadillac’s, Volvos, Audis, VW’s, Mercedes, SUV’s, Trucks, and other fine vehicles but my all time favorite to see was the exotic cars—Maserati, Lamborghini, Porsche, and I saved the best for last! The Rolls Royce and Mr. Bentley.

After walking around gazing at all the nice vehicles, we decided to get some lunch before going on with our day. Ed had a hot dog with the works and I had some nachos without jalapenos. “Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary)of the Holy Spirit who lives within you, Whom you have received (as a Gift) from God? You are not your own.” I Cor. 6:19 AMP

It was all good but at the blink of an eye, everything changed. I sat there thinking that the food just needed to process through because I was experiencing the dumping syndrome (eating certain foods to fast that causes your body to sweat) from gastric bypass but things quickly got worse. My body was wet from head to toe and I was bent over from severe abdominal pain. I told Ed we needed to leave and while walking back to the car, it seemed that the walk was longer than before. I had to stop a couple of times to catch my breath but we finally made it to the car.

I told Ed to jump on the Tollway and take me straight to Centennial Medical Center. My time spent in the ER was special. Since my body was so clammy, the nurse had a hard time finding a vein. Finally, with the help of a Dr., they had to tilt me back and put an IV in my neck. When they sat me upright that’s when I began to call on Earl (which is better than saying throwing up). A Test would reveal a bowel obstruction (strangulation of the intestines) and a bleeding ulcer.

I stayed in ICU a few days before moving into a regular room. After losing about two units of blood, my ulcer was clamped off and I received two units of blood to replace what I lost. From there, it was a healing process.

‘By His stripes, I am healed’ Isaiah 53:5 was all I said until I fell asleep. Regardless of what I was going through, I had to reaffirm with myself that God is the healer. By Gods’ grace, I am still here. Thank You, Jesus!